11-10-18
Sometimes we do all the things we’re supposed to do, all the things that we were told to do and the outcome which is presented is one which is tragically flawed in comparison to what we had been led to believe. We want anything to grab and single out as the culprit, even if that blame is directed at our own selves.
These setbacks easily knock the wind out of one’s sail, forcing them to begin questioning their own abilities and self-worth. “Something’s not right with me,” quickly becomes an explanation. Unfortunately, we’re quick to attack this difference as a flaw instead of evaluating on if maybe it’s the approach or the environment would be better evaluated. It’s not always “something not right with me,” but “something’s not right with the way I’ve been going about this,” or “something’s not right with where I’ve been operating.”
I’ve felt like there weren’t things right with myself. There’s definitely been an countless things that I have worked on, and will continue to work on. However, in my life, there has been a vast number of things I have been told or suggested that were wrong with me. Just like anyone else this made me question myself, and whether I “needed” to fit whatever model I was supposed to.
Sometimes the things that aren’t “right” with us, are the best things about ourselves. It’s easy to lose sight of that. It’s easy to feel like we must constantly be adjusting to other’s expectations. Ultimately, as long as you’re not causing harm to yourself or others, there’s no reason to let others judgement last beyond the solitary moment they’re presented.